In 2021, nineteen years after The Statler Brothers walked off a stage for the last time, Don Reid picked up the phone in Staunton, Virginia, to talk about a new book. The lead singer of the most awarded vocal group in  country music had three Grammys, nine CMA Awards and a shelf of gold and platinum albums to his name. When the conversation turned to life after the road, he talked about none of them. He talked about Wednesday lunch.

A Standing Lunch in Staunton

The call went to country  music writer Diane Diekman, and it had been set up by Don’s younger son, Langdon. Don was calling from the same town he had lived in all his life. The book was The Music of The Statler Brothers: An Anthology, a song-by-song account of everything the group ever recorded.

Somewhere between the albums and the stories, Don mentioned his week. Every Wednesday he had lunch with both of his sons, Debo and Langdon. They did not hurry. They sat for hours, catching up on family, handling business, and, in his words, getting to

everything that’s on our hearts.

He said he had also enjoyed simply having more time with his wife, Debbie. He was working from an office in Staunton that he shared with Phil Balsley, the Statlers’ baritone, whom he still saw several times a week. Because of the pandemic, the whole book tour had been done from that office by phone and video, and Don admitted he did not mind. It kept him off the highway.

Thirty-Eight Years on the Road

The road had been part of Don’s life since he was a teenager. Johnny Cash discovered the group in 1964, before Don turned 20, and they spent roughly eight and a half years as his opening act and backing singers. By the time Don was 20, “Flowers on the Wall” had reached No. 4 on the pop chart, and the touring never really stopped after that. The Country Music Hall of Fame notes that for more than thirty years the Statlers ran one of the top-grossing road shows in the business.

What they refused to do was leave home. Most acts of their size moved to Nashville. The Statlers stayed in Staunton. In 1980 they bought and renovated the old Beverley Manor elementary school and turned it into their headquarters, with offices, a small museum and an auditorium. Starting in 1970, they also threw a free Fourth of July celebration in the town’s Gypsy Hill Park called Happy Birthday USA, which ran for 25 years.

Even when The Statler Brothers Show became the top-rated program on The Nashville Network, running from 1991 to 1998, home base stayed in Staunton.

A Final Bow in Salem

The end was announced quietly, through the group’s website and fan mailings. The farewell show, billed as “A Final Bow,” was set for October 26, 2002, at the Salem Civic Center in Salem, Virginia. Tickets sold out six months ahead of time, in less than 90 minutes. The group made a point of telling fans that nobody was sick. They were simply tired.

About 7,000 people filled the arena that night. Jimmy Dean introduced them. They opened with “Do You Remember These,” a 1972 hit Don had co-written with his brother Harold and Larry Lee. Before the night was over, Don read a list of people to thank. It was not a list of executives. It named wives, mothers, soundmen, managers and bus drivers.

They closed with “Amazing Grace,” the first song the group had ever sung together. The Associated Press reported that after 38 years of touring, the men from Staunton were coming off the road to spend more time with their families.

The Notes He Kept Without Knowing Why

Don did not stop working. He started writing books instead, beginning with Heroes and Outlaws of the Bible in 2002 and continuing through novels such as O Little Town, One Lane Bridge and Piano Days. He told Diekman he had largely set songwriting aside and written only a handful of songs since retiring, mostly for himself.

The anthology came about because his sons kept asking for it. For years Debo and Langdon urged him to write down the story behind every Statler song. Don was not sure he had enough to say. What he did have was a habit from the touring years: he had kept daily notes the whole time, without any clear reason. Writing the anthology, he said, was when he finally understood why he had kept them. He found he had far more to say than he expected, and he enjoyed every bit of it.

Home

The house in Staunton is shared with Debbie and a cocker spaniel named Lucy. On his own author pages, Don has introduced the household with a photo of Debbie and the dog he jokingly called a little demon. When the PBS program Write Around the Corner visited the home, Lucy came up in the same breath as Debbie and the boys.

The years after 2002 also brought loss. Harold Reid, Don’s older brother and the group’s bass singer, died at his home in Staunton on April 24, 2020, after a long fight with kidney failure. He was 80. Jimmy Fortune, the group’s longtime tenor, said afterward that Harold had been given almost eighteen years with his wife, children and grandchildren once the touring ended, and that Harold had counted it a blessing.

The trophies stayed in Staunton. So did the man who had spent 38 years on a tour bus, and on Wednesdays he sat for hours with his two sons and let the afternoon go wherever it went.

You Missed

In June 2020, Vince Gill put his guitars aside and spent his time at a Nashville hospital while Amy Grant had open-heart surgery. She’d lived with a heart defect since birth. Two summers later, after a bicycle crash near Percy Warner Park left her unconscious and with a concussion and severe road rash, Vince cleared his calendar to care for her at home. They’d first met in late 1993 at a televised Christmas concert in Tennessee. The next year, they recorded “House of Love” together. Vince was married to country singer Janis Oliver, and Amy was married to musician Gary Chapman. They felt a connection early on, but for years their time together was work: a Christmas tour, a charity golf event, a duet. Vince put some of what he felt into his songwriting. “Whenever You Come Around” came out of those years, when he could write about how it felt to be near her even though they were still living separate lives. His divorce was finalized in 1997. Amy’s followed in 1999, and Vince gave her time to focus on her three children as her family adjusted. They married on a hillside near Nashville on March 10, 2000. Vince had a daughter, Jenny, and Amy had Matthew, Millie and Sarah. In 2001, they welcomed their daughter Corrina. More than two decades after the wedding, December still brings them back to the Ryman Auditorium to sing together. Christmas music was what brought them into the same room in 1993, when they were two singers booked for the same show. Now it’s a date they put on the calendar together. And when Amy needed time to recover, Vince was willing to clear that calendar and spend those weeks at home with her.

When Kris Kristofferson’s memory began to fail, doctors told him it might be Alzheimer’s. His wife, Lisa Meyers, kept looking for an answer. By then, Kris could sometimes forget something that had happened only moments earlier. The trouble had been building for nearly a decade. Some doctors suspected Alzheimer’s; others wondered whether his years of playing football and boxing had caught up with him. In 2016, after Lisa pushed for more testing, a specialist found that Kris had Lyme disease. One possibility was that he’d picked up a tick while filming *Disappearances* in the Vermont woods in 2005. Lisa later recalled that his thinking grew clearer after he came off the Alzheimer’s medication and went through three weeks of Lyme treatment. He was able to tour again. They’d met at a gym in Malibu in 1982. Kris was 46, had put years of heavy drinking behind him, and was wary of marrying again after two divorces. Lisa was 26, studying law at Pepperdine University and working toward a life outside the music business. They married at Pepperdine’s faculty club on February 18, 1983, and eventually made a quieter home in Hana, on Maui. Kris had spent much of his three older children’s childhoods on the road. In Hawaii, he got to be home for more of the years he and Lisa spent raising Jesse, Jody, Johnny, Kelly Marie and Blake. Lisa eventually took over managing his career, too. When he went back out on tour, she traveled with him through his final years of performing. He retired in early 2021. Kris died peacefully at their Maui home on September 28, 2024. He was 88. The man who wrote “Sunday Mornin’ Comin’ Down” had spent much of his life on the road, but his last days were at home with Lisa and their family. They’d been married for forty-one years.